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“it is unhappy people who tend to be most self-focused and are often socially withdrawn, brooding, and even antagonistic. Happy people, in contrast, are generally found to be more sociable, flexible, and creative and are able to tolerate life’s daily frustrations more easily than unhappy people. And, most important, they are found to be more loving and forgiving than unhappy people.”
-Howard C. Cutler, M.D., The Art of Happiness, pg. 17
In The Art of Happiness, the Dalai Lama and Howard Cutler paint pictures of two very different people. The differences in being happy and being unhappy are clearly depicted. Finding happiness not only helps you to enjoy life but it directly correlates with more positive attributes such as being sociable and flexible. Happy people are not as easily impacted by the ups and downs of daily life or the little frustrations that arise. Unhappy people have a harder time dealing with life on life’s terms. Every little roadblock or inconvenience is not tolerated well. Unhappy people also tend to be more socially isolated and even instigators for negative events. So which one do you relate with? If you are happy more often than not, then keep doing what you’re doing. If you find that you tend to be more negative or have less enjoyable interactions then maybe consider doing things a little differently. Create happy moments for you to store in your memory and focus your attention on. Meditate to help calm the mind and cultivate compassion and love. Do one kind deed every day and notice the positive impact it has on your mood and sense of humanity. Build distress tolerance skills and practice flexibility. Take a moment out of each day to reflect on the positive things in your life and use those to help improve your outlook. Most importantly, intentionally direct your efforts toward cultivating happiness and developing a clearer, more loving, forgiving, and compassionate self.